Good Friends and Open Minds

I love it.  Love it!  I love that I surround myself with people who love a good 'discussion'.  I can't do this with too many people.  Women especially.  Oh god no, women are a bit different when it comes to things like this.  I can have a 'discussion' with a man and all is still right with the world, but have the same 'discussion' with certain women.....and they get all pouty and snotty about it.  I have never been able to understand this.  So we disagree?  Who cares??  Doesn't mean I think you're a bitch and stupid.  Because being so closed-minded would make me stupid.  I feel anyway.  It just means we don't agree.  I am not one of those people who need everyone agreeing with me.  As a matter of fact I get very tired of people like that.  Can you imagine...saying in my best ho hum voice..."Oh you are the greatest."  Whatever you say is right."  "You are the best and only you are right and everyone else is wrong."  blah blah blah puke.

I also love the people who want me to change my mind.  You know the kind?  The kind who has it in their head that they will just beat you down and argue with you until you change your mind to theirs.  Love it.  Won't happen but love it.  My husband is good for this but I love him to bits anyhow.  He will argue and argue and argue and get so frustrated with me.  I say things like "I understand what you're saying Gregg but I still think this way."  It makes his hair stand on end that he can't change my mind to his way of thinking.  Oh sometimes he can.  If I listen and hear what he has to say and I agree with it, I am not above saying "Hmm you're right, I agree."  But I'm one of those people who don't say too much until I've really thought about what I'm going to say first.  I would rather say nothing then just spew off at the mouth.  So if I'm saying it, it's because I mean it and will stand by it.  And if I feel I was wrong I will be the first one to admit that too....and have on many occassions.

So I am lucky enough to have friends that love to talk freely and openly and no one has to worry about someone taking offence and pouting and carrying on or sitting in the corner eating worms.  We disagree but that's ok.  I have to say most of the time we agree, but occassionaly we will disagree.  And it's nice to be able to say "I understand what you are saying, but I just don't agree with you on that." or "Well I'm listening to what you have to say but I still stand by what I say." and it's all good.  And I love it.

So with that I say to a certain someone who I was on the phone with earlier.  Yes me.  On the phone.  Get out of town.  I say "I hear you.  I understand your concerns, but I am sticking by my decision and will go ahead as planned."  But thank you dear friend for voicing those concerns and telling me.  Because I'm ok with that.  I won't drop you as a friend for being open and honest with me.  Never.  I love you to bits.

Comments

[Sirdar]

Guys are different than girls. You are right though...after we agree to disagree...out comes the beer.

[Heather]

I wish women were more like guys...I think it is better to speak your mind and stand up for what you believe in...it is okay to think differently or have different opinions...women get way too emotional.

[Penney]

I was having what i thought was a disagreement with a girlfriend and she said "no we are discussin and cussin-sharing our thought and feelings" And she was right. Neither one of us wanted to be right even tho our views were different from each other, we were each just telling our side.